This statement “I am helpless,” has sometimes entered my mind, and use to be something I believed all the time.

I am proud of the fact that I say, “I am in control of my life,” now. It took my dad’s death in 2023 to make that statement which should have happened long before his death. I shouldn’t have waited for his death to believe I am in control of my life.

He, as well as my mother, have always believed that I can’t live a normal life. Although, I think my dad influenced my mom’s beliefs. He believed and treated me like a child even up to his death, even though I was 45 years old, and that I will always be dependent on them.

However, I know I am not helpless. That’s what my family always believed, but it isn’t the truth. As my therapist says, “Dad’s can be wrong.” I know I am stronger than I think because I am a survivor.

So, I am trying to challenge the messages that I am helpless and tell myself that I am in control of my life. I can’t always control what happens in life, but I can control and own my own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs.

So, I hope some of you that read this post, who struggle with believing you are helpless, can learn just as I am that you are in control of your life, and how you respond to whatever happens in your life. You’re capable of anything that you set your mind on.

I found an idea on thinking more positively on my Gratitude app. What do you think? https://gratefulness.page.link/a7ew